Coping with vs Managing our Emotions
COPING with what is vs MANAGING to grow.
People come into therapy because they want to learn how to cope with their emotions. This is a very noble first step as they realize that their emotional world impacts not only on themselves but also on others. However, learning how to cope is a very limited goal as it has no vision attached to it beyond coping with what is. The potential to create gets lost in such an attitude. And it is in the creation that one grows into its full potential and enlarges his/her own world and the world of others, learning how to manage one’s emotions opens us up to our dreams, to our visions and to the full potential that lies buried within our psyche.
In order to manage one’s emotions we need to know what we are truly managing. We are managing a process to get us from A to B. Coping focuses on the A – getting rid of the A or changing it. Whereas managing focuses on the A, the B and the process to get there. In a quest like that we start creating our vision and not merely hoping that when A changes the world will be a better place, for what ever this might mean. When we understand the B we can start unfolding and identifying the most important factor that motivates us to get there, our purpose which is revealed to us by the question: WHY?
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